Healthy Relationships...

How to have a HEALTHY Relationship

  • Both of you are on the same page on your relationship. How fast you want it to go, how committed you are, and the type of realistic relationship you are wanting.

  • You Respect each other. This goes in what activities you want to do , your appearances, your interest, thoughts and feelings. You don’t always have to agree or want the same thing. Just respect the others choices and opinions. Even if it doesn’t mirror yours.

  • Resolve disagreements with love and respect. It is natural for people to disagree. It is important on how you reach an agreement. Try to do this with a good attitude.

  • You both have a life outside of the relationship. Don’t lose you. Keep up with friends, families, and the activities you enjoyed.

  • Having a trust is big. Make sure that you trust each other. That you can discuss the good, bad, and ugly with each other without an repercussions. No hidden agendas or secrets. This is also shown, by not invading their privacy.

  • You encourage each other in your own personal lives. You inspire each other to be better.

  • Enjoy doing things together.

The Unhealthy Relationship      

  • Here are some examples of what an unhealthy relationship could look like. Again these are just examples. You could be or know someone who is experiencing some or all of the following. It might not be exactly what’s on this list but some form of it. It also might not be extremely noticeable at first. A good rule of thumb is if it is making you scared or uncomfortable, it is not healthy for you.

  • They have lack of respect for you. They can show this by putting you down, making you feel like you are crazy, or making negative remarks about what you where, how you look, how you talk, what you like.

  • They have lack of respect for your personal space. This can look like they are constantly “popping” to see you, looking through your personal belongings, going through your social media and electronics, checking your call logs, or calling, texting, or messaging all of the time.

  • They almost always make the decision. What activities you are going to do, where you are going, what you’re going to eat. Their moods swings are frequent and can be fierce. Lying or over exaggerating, overreacting to the small things, frequent outburst, and making you feel like their behavior is your fault. Gestures are over the top. Telling you it’s my way or the highway.

  • They might also try to sabotage positive things that are happening to you. Work promotions, grades, positions on teams and or other activities. You go along with something even if you don’t feel that it is right.

  • Telling you, if you loved me you would or would not do something. They might start separating you from you friends and loved ones. They do this by wanting you to spend any available time you have with them. Or they discourage you spending time with friends and loved ones. Makes you feel guilty if you do. They are jealous most of the time of you relationships and time.

  • Making you afraid.

Domestic Violence

Victim Adovocate Unit

Belton, Missouri

 Police Department

7001 E. 163rd St.
Belton, MO  64012


General Calls: 816.331.5522
Dispatch: 816.331.1500 
TIPS: 816.348.4499 
Fax: 816.322.7057 

Elizabeth Crow

Victim Advocate

816-348-4430

ecrow@beltonpd.org

Cama Suess

Victim Advocate

816-348-4434

CSuess@beltonpd.org

Sexual Assault

Upcoming Events 

Sexual Assault Awareness Virtual Event

Be the rock

April 10th, 2020

Your Belton Police Department Victim Service Unit has placed some teal rocks around some high foot trafficked areas. While everyone is out walking and practicing their social distancing, be on the lookout for one of our rocks. If you find one, you can keep it or leave it for the next person to see. We do ask that you take a picture of it and post it on social media with #SAAM #BPDvAU #Yourstorymatters . Also, you can post it on our facebook page.

What we are hoping for with today's event, is even though we all might need these empowering words right now when our world is kind of crazy, there might be people out there who are struggling with being a victim and might need to know that they are not alone and that their story matters.

Do your research

April 11th, 2020

Did you know that the Belton Police Department Victim Service Unit has its own website? BPDVAU.ORG. We believe in fostering a culture that prioritizes consent and respect, and responds to and supports survivors and their allies. One of the ways the unit does this is by keeping several different resources posted here for not only domestic violence, but also for sexual assault.
Not only do we have information and resources but there are several different repatible websites you can visit. RAINN, NSVRC, and MCADSV are a few of them.
Today’s Sexual Assault Awareness Virtual Event, we are asking you do research on Sexual Assault Awareness and how you do your part. Once, you have done this, post to your social media what you have found out with #SAAM #BPDVAU

Donating new undergarments

April 12th, 2020

Sometimes when a victim is sexually assaulted, they might need to give the SANE nurse or the police department their undergarments for evidence. Only 5 out of every 1,000 perpetrators will end up in prison. This is one of the reasons why it is important for law enforcement to collect all the evidence that they can.

 

Today’s Sexual Assault Virtual Event we are asking that you purchase undergarments through amazon or your local store and have them shipped to the Belton Police Department or Cass County Sheriff's Office.

When we have a victim of sexual assault and their undergarments are requested for evidence, we will be able to supply this to our victims. This allows the victim to be able to replace them instead of wearing nothing at all under their clothing when they are done.

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