Healthy Relationships...

Everyone desires to be loved and

accepted and there is absolutely

nothing wrong with that.

Yet true love is self-less and respectful.

If someone cannot give you that, then they don't deserve a place in your life.

Boundaries

It is healthy to set boundaries in a relationship. Even before getting into a relationship you should set your own personal boundaries and a method of accountability. Communication is key. You should feel safe sharing your boundaries with your partner. A key sign of an unhealthy relationship is if your partner demeans or disregards your boundaries. 

Communication

You should feel safe discussing uncomfortable topics with your partner. In a healthy relationship you should be able to state your opinion and work through an issue without feeling dismissed, demeaned, or threatened. Of course, you need to be able to give your partner the same respect.

(thinkpozitiv.com, 2017)

Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship

Does the person I am with....

  • Disrespect me or others

  • Always check up on me

  • Demands my constant attention or time

  • Sets limits on who I talk to or spend time with

  • Undermine my talents, goals or appearance

  • Make threats against me or others

  • Force me to have any type of physical contact

  • Ever use drugs or alcohol to get me to do things

  • Gets angry easily and cannot work through a conflict

  • Ever slapped, hit, punched me - even jokingly

  • Refuse to get to know my family

  • Try to control my decisions

If ANY of these are true of your relationship you may be in an unhealthy or abusive relationship

(Hope Haven flier, n.d.)

Internet and Social Media Safety...

Social Media

Once you post something online you no longer have a lot of control over who or how that information is used. 

Here are a couple safety tips...

  • Change your privacy settings

  • Avoid public Wi-Fi services

  • Ask permission before posting personal information about some else and ask that they do the same for you

  • Refuse access to your physical location - some sites make this information public

  • Before you post something personal ask yourself if you are comfortable with anyone having access to it, even with privacy settings there is always a safety risk.

  • Report to the site host anything that makes you uncomfortable

 

If you ever come across images or content regarding abuse of a child report them to the CyberTipline

Meeting an Online Friend

  • Meet in a public place until they earn your trust. Have your own ride to and from the destination.

  • Let a friend know the who, where, when, and how long of the meeting. Have them check in with you at a specific time.

  • Wait to reveal too much personal information until they've gained your trust.

  • Have an exit plan for if you feel uncomfortable or threatened. 

  • If you are traveling a long distance for this encounter have your own resources in place. Find your own lodging, pay for your own travel, or have a friend travel with you. You may consider having a video chat before meeting for the first time.

(RAINN.org, 2017)

Go Out in Groups

Arrive together and leave together. Watch out for each other and step in if something doesn't seem right. 

Know Your Limits

Don't drink on an empty stomach and drink plenty of water. Be aware of how you are feeling and your personal consumption limits.

Trust Your Instincts

If you feel unsafe or uncomfortable at any point remove yourself from the situation. 

(RAINN.org, 2017)

References:

Abbey, A. (2001). The relationship between the quantity of alcohol consumed and the severity of sexual assaults committed by college men. Journal of Interpersonal Violence, 18(7).

Greenfeld, L. A. (1997). Sex offenses and offenders: An analysis of data on rape and sexual assault. Department of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, Bureau of Justice Statistics. Retrieved from https://bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/SOO.PDF

Hope Haven. (n.d.) Dating violence flier

TheMamaBearEffect.org. (n.d.) Image retrieved from http://www.themamabeareffect.org/free-downloads.html

Maraboli, S. (n.d.) Image retrieved from https://www.pinterest.com/pin/54465476723526674/ 

Palmer, J. E. (2016). Recognizing the continuum of opportunities for third parties to prevent and respond to sexual assault and dating violence on a college campus. Crime Prevention and Community Safety, 18(1), 1-18. doi:http://dx.doi.org/10.1057/cpcs.2015.18

Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network. (2017). Alcohol safetyRetrieved from https://rainn.org/articles/alcohol-safety

Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network. (2017). Meeting offlineRetrieved from https://rainn.org/articles/meeting-offline

Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network. (2017). Steps you can take to prevent sexual assaultRetrieved from https://rainn.org/articles/steps-you-can-take-prevent-sexual-assault

Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network. (2017). Social media safety. Retrieved from https://rainn.org/articles/social-media-safety

ThinkPositiv.com. (2017). Image retrieved from http://thinkpozitiv.tumblr.com/post/164613226496/without-respect-love-is-lost

Wolchin, R. (n.d.) Image retrieved from http://www.rachelwolchin.com/the-fameless/my-picture-quotes/nggallery/page/3

Domestic Violence

Victim Adovocate Unit

Belton, Missouri

 Police Department

7001 E. 163rd St.
Belton, MO  64012


General Calls: 816.331.5522
Dispatch: 816.331.1500 
TIPS: 816.348.4499 
Fax: 816.322.7057 

Elizabeth Crow

Victim Advocate

816-348-4430

ecrow@beltonpd.org

Cama Suess

Victim Advocate

816-348-4434

CSuess@beltonpd.org

Sexual Assault

Upcoming Events 

Sexual Assault Awareness Virtual Event

Be the rock

April 10th, 2020

Your Belton Police Department Victim Service Unit has placed some teal rocks around some high foot trafficked areas. While everyone is out walking and practicing their social distancing, be on the lookout for one of our rocks. If you find one, you can keep it or leave it for the next person to see. We do ask that you take a picture of it and post it on social media with #SAAM #BPDvAU #Yourstorymatters . Also, you can post it on our facebook page.

What we are hoping for with today's event, is even though we all might need these empowering words right now when our world is kind of crazy, there might be people out there who are struggling with being a victim and might need to know that they are not alone and that their story matters.

Do your research

April 11th, 2020

Did you know that the Belton Police Department Victim Service Unit has its own website? BPDVAU.ORG. We believe in fostering a culture that prioritizes consent and respect, and responds to and supports survivors and their allies. One of the ways the unit does this is by keeping several different resources posted here for not only domestic violence, but also for sexual assault.
Not only do we have information and resources but there are several different repatible websites you can visit. RAINN, NSVRC, and MCADSV are a few of them.
Today’s Sexual Assault Awareness Virtual Event, we are asking you do research on Sexual Assault Awareness and how you do your part. Once, you have done this, post to your social media what you have found out with #SAAM #BPDVAU

Donating new undergarments

April 12th, 2020

Sometimes when a victim is sexually assaulted, they might need to give the SANE nurse or the police department their undergarments for evidence. Only 5 out of every 1,000 perpetrators will end up in prison. This is one of the reasons why it is important for law enforcement to collect all the evidence that they can.

 

Today’s Sexual Assault Virtual Event we are asking that you purchase undergarments through amazon or your local store and have them shipped to the Belton Police Department or Cass County Sheriff's Office.

When we have a victim of sexual assault and their undergarments are requested for evidence, we will be able to supply this to our victims. This allows the victim to be able to replace them instead of wearing nothing at all under their clothing when they are done.

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