Domestic Violence 

What is Abuse

 

An abusive relationship describes a relationship where one person consistently and constantly uses tactics to psychologically, physically, financially, emotionally, and sexually control and have power over another person. A relationship that is considered to have domestic violence is a relationship where there is an imbalance of power. – defined by the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

Crossing the Line

 

If any of the following are happening in your relationship, then it is a relationship with a serious problem.

 

Physical Abuse – Pushing, hitting, kicking, choking, suffocating, spitting, grabbing, anything that is physical touch that is unwelcome.

 

Verbal Abuse – Screaming, cursing, name calling, negative comments about the other person’s appearance, likes, or interest.

 

Threats – Threatening to harm or kill you or your loved ones (including pets). Threatening to take things from you (money, medication, sleep, house, kids, friends, freedom)

Destruction of Property – Whether it's yours, theirs, or both, if they are breaking items to try and control you or scare you this is not safe.

 

Control – Keeping you from leaving a room or home. Not allowing you to have access to a phone if you need help. Not allowing you to have access to food, medication, or finances.

 

 

If you have observed some of these behaviors, and don’t feel like your life is in jeopardy, please seek out a trusted adult that cares about your well being and speak with them on your options. These behaviors need to be stopped immediately.

You may also seek out professional help about how to handle your unhealthy relationship.

 

If your relationship has some of these behaviors above, and you are fearful for your life, please get to a safe location and call 911.

Red Flags of Potential Abuse

 

  • Someone who insists on moving too quickly into a relationship

 

  • Someone who does not honor your boundaries
     

  • A partner who is excessively jealous or possessive

 

  • Someone who criticizes or makes negative comments about your appearance

 

  • Someone who’s words and actions do not go together

 

  • Someone who does not take responsibility for their behavior

 

  • Someone who blames others for their failures and difficulties

 

  • Anyone who has history of battering

 

  • Someone who grew up in an abusive, violent home

 

  • Someone who has stereotypical views of sex roles

 

  • Someone who tells you how you should feel or tried to talk you out of your feelings

 

  • Anyone who makes frequent and harsh derogatory remarks about others


 

*******Many of these listed signs of abuse may not indicate potential abusive behavior. It is important for you to not dismiss these red flags and take time to explore them further. It may be helpful to take time to get to know a potential partner of abuse by watching for patterns of behavior in a variety of settings.

 Elements of Physical
 

Elements of Physical Abuse  

  • Pushing or Shoving

  • Slapping or biting

  • Kicking or Choking

  • Hitting or Punching

  • Throwing object at partner

  • Holding partner or preventing her from leaving

  • Locking partner in/out of the house

  • Abandoning partner in a dangerous place

  • Threatening or hurting the partner with a weapon 

Dynamics of Domestic Violence and Elements of Emotional Abuse

 

  • Continually citizens, calls names, or shouts at partner

  • Insults and/or drives away partners friends and family

  • Takes car keys and/or money away

  • Abuses pets to hurt partner

  • Manipulates partner with lies or contradictions

  • Regularly threatens to leave or tells partner to leave

  • Ridicules partners most valued beliefs: religion, race, heritage or class

  • Ignores partners feelings

  • Punishes children when angry with partner

  • Withholds approval, appreciation or affection as punishment

Domestic Violence

Victim Adovocate Unit

Belton, Missouri

 Police Department

7001 E. 163rd St.
Belton, MO  64012


General Calls: 816.331.5522
Dispatch: 816.331.1500 
TIPS: 816.348.4499 
Fax: 816.322.7057 

Elizabeth Crow

Victim Advocate

816-348-4430

ecrow@beltonpd.org

Cama Suess

Victim Advocate

816-348-4434

CSuess@beltonpd.org

Sexual Assault

Upcoming Events 

Sexual Assault Awareness Virtual Event

Be the rock

April 10th, 2020

Your Belton Police Department Victim Service Unit has placed some teal rocks around some high foot trafficked areas. While everyone is out walking and practicing their social distancing, be on the lookout for one of our rocks. If you find one, you can keep it or leave it for the next person to see. We do ask that you take a picture of it and post it on social media with #SAAM #BPDvAU #Yourstorymatters . Also, you can post it on our facebook page.

What we are hoping for with today's event, is even though we all might need these empowering words right now when our world is kind of crazy, there might be people out there who are struggling with being a victim and might need to know that they are not alone and that their story matters.

Do your research

April 11th, 2020

Did you know that the Belton Police Department Victim Service Unit has its own website? BPDVAU.ORG. We believe in fostering a culture that prioritizes consent and respect, and responds to and supports survivors and their allies. One of the ways the unit does this is by keeping several different resources posted here for not only domestic violence, but also for sexual assault.
Not only do we have information and resources but there are several different repatible websites you can visit. RAINN, NSVRC, and MCADSV are a few of them.
Today’s Sexual Assault Awareness Virtual Event, we are asking you do research on Sexual Assault Awareness and how you do your part. Once, you have done this, post to your social media what you have found out with #SAAM #BPDVAU

Donating new undergarments

April 12th, 2020

Sometimes when a victim is sexually assaulted, they might need to give the SANE nurse or the police department their undergarments for evidence. Only 5 out of every 1,000 perpetrators will end up in prison. This is one of the reasons why it is important for law enforcement to collect all the evidence that they can.

 

Today’s Sexual Assault Virtual Event we are asking that you purchase undergarments through amazon or your local store and have them shipped to the Belton Police Department or Cass County Sheriff's Office.

When we have a victim of sexual assault and their undergarments are requested for evidence, we will be able to supply this to our victims. This allows the victim to be able to replace them instead of wearing nothing at all under their clothing when they are done.

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